|Posted by [email protected] on November 18, 2014 at 6:50 PM|
This past week’s meeting had a few technical things to discuss considering the winding down semester. First of all, there will be a new officer for next semester. Evan is going to move up to President, Celeste to Vice President, and at the beginning of next semester we will have an election for the new Treasurer. These office positions will only be held for the spring semester and elections for all officer positions will be held either at the end of spring, or the beginning of fall for next year. I hope that paragraph wasn’t too confusing! If you have any further questions pertaining to that, feel free to get ahold of any of the current officers or myself.
As for the discussion! The topic this past week was:
Raising children in a secular household.
This discussion warranted many questions. There were a lot of “What if…” and mentions of very specific situations and circumstances. So, as some food for thought:
When is it appropriate to have the “talk” with your children? How do you tell your child you are secular without swaying them in any specific direction?
A common concern that kept coming up was that of wanting to be an open parent. Of wanting to be accepting, and wanting to let the children discover their own interests and find their own happy place with their beliefs, but also not influencing them in the same direction that they, as the parent, have already chosen. How does a parent discuss their beliefs and ideas in a completely neutral way as to not say that their way is the only way, or the right way? By not attending a church, are you swaying your children to not believe in the church?
Also, as a parent, how do you give your kids a strong community to be a part of, something many people regard as an environment for personal growth, without including religion? How does one “practice” secularism? And, even if your child comes to an age where they can say they are secular as well, they are still susceptible to being influenced by other children, being told they are wrong by other children, and being left out of groups because of their lack of beliefs. A lot of things that, being a secular parent, we may have experienced and not wish on our children as well.
One conclusion the group (overall) seemed to agree with:
As parents, we should explain ourselves in objective and factual ways. It is best to let our children explore. Let them have ideas, let them have fleeting beliefs, let them question everything, read everything, and try whatever religions or ideas they want to. We should be open-minded, accepting, and above all loving. Our children should never have to have to have a talk they dread having with us due to fear of losing our love or acceptance. We should give them the same openness and considerations many of us wish we had growing up ourselves.
Well, this was the last meeting before Thanksgiving break. I hope all of you enter food comas as much as I plan to, and hope to either see you (or meet you) soon!